1) Why do we seek friendship?
-Companionship: someone to relate different aspects of our lives with
-To feel loved: someone you show affection towards and vice versa
-Sense of belonging: to feel a part of something (group)
-To feel wanted or needed: someone who needs you just as much as you need them
•Friends are essentially a source of happiness. They are there when you need them to give advice or to just listen. A friend is someone you enjoy spending time with and who you share experiences with. They help you become the best person possible and bring out the good side of your personality. A true friendship makes it through the good times and the bad and cannot be easily broken. These friendships last a lifetime.

2) Types of friendship:
Convenience friendship: each person needs something from the other or it is a one sided need

  • Could be a complementary relationship (the taker and the giver)
  • Can change depending on the circumstances
  • When the need is no longer present the friendship is over
  • Don’t spend a lot of time together (strictly business)
  • Expect to gain something
  • motive is not to get to know someone per say

Pleasure friendship: uses for satisfaction

  • Friends with benefits
  • Driven my feelings or emotions
  • Spur of the moment
  • Not long lasting
  • Sometimes can lead to more than merely friendship

Inseparable friendship: ideal friendship

  • Permanent
  • Similar interests
  • Communicate all aspects of life
  • Like each other as they are
  • Would sacrifice anything for the other
  • Allows the other to have friendships with others
  • “Sister like”
  • Reciprocal relationship

3) Traits of a good friend: trustworthy, honest, reliable, supportive, loving/caring, loyal, positive/optimistic, unique, accepting, adventurous, respectful, and fun.

4) Operational Tendencies:
-Maximizing: friends that test what you will tolerate, how you react to certain situations, or what the limits of you friend ship are
-Minimizing: no conflicts, no problems, calm, submissive
-Optimizing: opinions are stated and argued in a rational way, problems are discussed and resolved

5) Effects of friendship on other relationships:
With Parents: Not all friendships are healthy. Parents can usually tell how a new friend will impact you actions and may not always like them. This can cause tension if they forbid you from hanging with this friend.
With Others: As you grow closer to one friend you may grow farther from another. Also, hanging with a new group of friends may cause tension with another group. Jealousy may be a key factor for the tension.
With Yourself: A new friend can be good or bad for the relationship with yourself. They may be interested in new things that you aren’t. These may be good which can test your decision making when it comes to certain things. A friend can either cause you to lose yourself or discover who you are.

6) A friendship is like a tree. As you get to know someone the relationship grows and flourishes. Once the relationship is established it begins to branch off in all directions as you experience more things with that person. Like a tree, it is continuously growing as a true friendship becomes more permanent. Also, if the relationship is not nurtured, it will slowly shrivel and die.

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